childcareBefore we opt for a childcare facility or service, we have to take into consideration the reasons for choosing someone to look after or care for our child. If we are a working parent and our partner, too, we can’t help but choose an in-house, child minding, family care, or daycare service for the sake of our child. These are ways to somehow help a child learn and let him explore and discover his potentials. We can’t help but worry about our child’s development, safety and security as we do not know well who these people are in charge of taking care of our child.
First, let us explore the options we have in a childcare service. Childcare, by definition, is an act of looking after a child of six weeks of age until thirteen. The age can be up until eighteen, in some cases. A childcare facility that has witnessed the child grow may have created a deep bond with the child. Either the teacher or the nanny develops a connection with the child. We know it is a bit scary if the child prefers to be with his nanny instead of his parents, so we must see to it that we still supervise and monitor our child’s behavioral and developmental change.
As parents, we only want the best for our child. We want him to learn through quality education at an early age and to experience enriching activities for improving his emotional and intellectual quotient. If we are a parent who graduated in college, our focus would be his learning needs, so we are likely to consider a family care or a daycare center in this regard. The higher the cost is we need to pay for a childcare service that is not in-house, the more we expect quality care and education for our child.
If we belong to families with low income, we might never opt for a childcare facility and we tend to raise the child by ourselves or to have a family or relative take on the responsibility of the caregiver. The benefit of this is we can have peace of mind because we know that our child is safe from abuse, neglect, or any form of harm. Since the child is in a confined world, he is unlikely to acquire communicable diseases from other children.
The same is true for hiring a nanny in that the child has less interaction with the other children since he is confined in his own world. If the nanny is not certified or did not undergo a training or education, we expect our child not to receive quality education. The nanny we hire can only look after our child’s safety and guide him in daily activities. The nanny can help us with other housekeeping activities, too. The nanny can act like our assistant and we, as parents, can still meet the emotional and developmental needs of our child.
Utilizing this type of service is ideal in situations where we are just new parents. As a mother, it is our responsibility to be with the infant almost all the time to create that mother and child bonding. If we fail to be a mother to the infant, he will have developmental issues later on in his life. We want our child not to experience crisis later on. The first years of a child’s life are crucial that as much as possible, we should be the one taking care of our child. An infant recognizes his mother, and he builds trust on her. This is the stage in which he learns to trust.
Our child needs to go through the normal process of development. Every developmental stage will require us to apply the suitable approach to understand and meet his needs. An infant’s need differ from a toddler’s and a teenager’s. We need to study or read a bit about the developmental stages of man as rearing a child is a serious task. Perhaps, we want to learn how to handle temper tantrums as may be experienced by a toddler. As parents, we want to give what our child wants but not to the point of spoiling him. What a toddler has to learn is autonomy and self-control, not shame and doubt. We want him to be an efficient decision-maker when he grows up.
Also, we want our child to learn how to initiate a learning activity, and not be guilty about doing it. We realize our child is in the preschool age and at a different psychosocial stage if we observe he exhibits behaviors of being initiative and curious. As parents, our role at this stage of our child’s psychosocial development is to encourage him by giving him the freedom to play with the other children. Preschool stage is also the time when children ask more and more questions as they are thirsty for knowledge. Childcare and parents should answer their questions patiently and not treat the children as if they are a nuisance. If a child at this stage is able to resolve the conflicting need of society and his psychological need, he may become an active participant or a leader later on in his life. Unresolved conflicts will make him a passive follower.
It is at this stage that we may want to opt for a childcare facility, preferably where he can develop his social skills and be driven to learn. We may prefer a family care service or a daycare center where the teacher or childcare provider can assess and help in his learning needs.
It pays to know what developmental stage our child is currently at so that we, as parents, know what type of childcare is appropriate for him.